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Reply to "How do you learn to accept the family relationships you have instead of the ones you wish you did?"
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's just so hard . I see families that work so well together and I wonder why can't we be that? Why can't we fix it? [b]Why can't I fix it?[/b] I know there's a lot of generational damage so no one in my family really knows how to be in a family. On the surface we try to project this image that it's all good but it's not . It's better than when I was a child but still very toxic.[/quote] OP, this is a hallmark of childhood trauma and co-dependency. I spent two years in therapy to sort this out, and it was immensely beneficial. That investment in myself freed me to love me and to know the boundaries between what is and is not under my control. You cannot fix other people, only yourself. I know the sadness, confusion and hurt that you feel, but it doesn't have to be that way.[/quote]
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