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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife has body image issues. Objectively, she's nearing 40, has had kids, and has always battled her weight. Subjectively, I don't care. I think she looks great. It really bothers her though. I tell her she looks good. My comments don't hurt, but they don't seem to help much, if at all. I get some variation of "you have to say that." I enthusiastically and appreciatively enjoy every inch of her during sex. She works really hard at exercising and eating right. For a year or two, this produced steady results. For the last year or two, she has kind of plateaued at a level where she's not really satisfied. And it bums her out.

As a general, kind human being matter, I'd like to do what I can to make her happier about her body. As a self-centered husband issue, I don't want her body image issues getting in the way of her enjoying sex with me.

So, my question for ladies who have struggled with similar issues is how, if at all, can your husband helpfully respond to your stated (or unstated) body image complaints. Is this one of those situations where a guy can easily hurt (e.g. "yeah, you look awful") but can't do much to help (e.g. "you look great, let me explore that body of yours!")? [/quote]

Dude. You are allowed to be annoyed as fuck by her self-loathing. Don't get sucked into the trap. It's NOT your job to constantly offer reassurances, since as you've noted, they have no impact at all. The best you can do is take care of yourself, say nothing at all to validate or invalidate, and protect your children from absorbing her attitude/issues, especially if you have girls.[/quote]

WOW. What OP did _you_ read??[/quote]

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