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Curious to know what kind of things were on that list  :?:[/quote]

It rubs the lotion on its skin. It does this whenever it is told. [/quote]

You know, that makes me laugh.  It's frighteningly close to the truth.

There was very little physical violence - only one or two outbursts where she attacked me - and the size/strength differential meant that there wasn't much physical damage inflicted.  However, it did scare me, because I knew any conflict could then escalate, and I wanted no part of that, ever.

It has been over ten years now, and I long ago purged my life and got rid of everything, so I don't have the list and honestly, I've tried to forget I ever let this happen to me - it's humiliating and you feel like a complete fool - and your mind cleans up the past.  Most of the items centered around how I was cruel, abusive and exploitative of her, with detailed examples of what exactly I'd "done" (literal actions in each case) that was cruel or abusive; none of it made any sense.  This is part of how an abuser keeps you feeling Fear, Obligation and Guilt, which is what they use to control you and keep you around and under their thumb (also: sex).  It wasn't that she loved me - it was just that she was terrified of being abandoned.  Once it was clearly over, for good (and I literally ran away on foot), and she was out of my house, she never said another word to me.  I found out about a year later that she'd moved onto another guy in about two weeks.

Anyway, I've totally hijacked this thread and I didn't want to - I just don't like hearing the "abusive behavior" tossed around lightly.  [/quote]

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