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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How did she react? Some people will mind, some won't. 
I think it's fine as long as you aren't pushing for exclusivity this early.[/quote]

OP here - definitely was and AM NOT pushing for exclusivity. The very night before, i was with another woman (however the one I asked, I would rather be in an exclusive relationship than with the woman from the night before).

My curiosity got the best of me and I guess my mask slipped (in that she probably knows now that I value her higher than others i'm dating).

I just was seeking some transparency or clues i guess of where i stood in her hierarchy or ladder.

Such a beta move, I know. [/quote]

I'm an online dater (female) in my mid-30s  and honestly, if a guy asked me this at any point, but DIDN'T want to be exclusive, I would think it was kind of weird. How did the conversation go?

You: So, are you seeing anyone else?
Her: Yes, I am.
You: Oh cool, me too, just wanted to check?

I understand what you explained here, but if I hadn't read that and was the woman on the other side of your exchange, I'd probably think that you were NOT all that into me, and were making sure I was in fact dating other people and not entertaining fantasies of a committed relationship with you. You know, reassuring yourself that I wasn't going to get all "stuck on you" since you were seeing other people.

I think I wouldn't ask again unless you actually have some reason for wanting to know that you can articulate to her.[/quote]

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