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[quote=Anonymous]A few things:
-On your side, I get that you've made offers, they've declined and there's only so much you can do to accommodate them. 
-On their side, I think it's fair that they don't really want to host their grandchildren's friends. They want special time with their grandchildren, not to babysit a playdate. So I think that request is fair. I also think it's fair that they aren't up for "helping" so much anymore - they did their time, handling two daycare pick ups a week for you when you had little ones, but now that the kids are older and your parents are older, they have less energy or just don't feel up for it for whatever reason and don't want to babysit anymore. They doesn't mean their special time with the grandkids should be over.

So I'd continue offering reasonable compromises. When the have a ball game, a school play - invite your parents to come and see the kids and then, if you're up for it, have them back at your place for a celebratory dinner. If your mom complains about your food or your cleaning, shut the conversation down. There are plenty of good threads on how to do that. Agree to a handful of "hang out with the grandparents" days a year and schedule them in advance so your parents can adjust their expectations and your kids can make their peace with the fact that they're going to be a bit bored for 4 days a year with the grandparents.

That plus holidays should be plenty for grandparents who are well but not up for helping. [/quote]

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