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[quote=Anonymous]My parents live about 30 minutes away. They are elderly but very busy with their own lives, and we are busy with ours. When my children were young, my folks picked them up from daycare twice a week and played with them until I came home from work. (And had to feed everyone dinner, listening to parents' judgments about the state of my apartment, not to mention my cooking, but OK). 
Now children are older and have after-school activities, homework, and friends they'd rather be with. We don't see my folks much, it's true. I suggested that my kids invite a friend and my folks were insulted. I suggested they pick up my child after school and bring her home, and they said no, they wanted us to come and be with them, regularly. 
We are doing so, on Valentine's Day (it'll be cold out, anyway. And, I mean, it's Valentine's Day). 
When I have needed them, to babysit or help out after a serious medical injury, they are not available. And yeah, I'm ticked off about that.

I know I should be grateful my folks want to be a part of our lives. I should be grateful they're ALIVE. And I am. But--I wish we could do things together, like hike or go to a playground, when I'm eager for adult conversation. I wish they'd allow my kids to invite friends over to their place. I wish we could go to the movies or theater together ("That's not really interacting together," say my folks. Kinda true.)
My father wants to sit and read to my children. 
My kids really want to run around. I read to them only at bedtime, and only the same old stories they want to hear over and over and over and over. 
And it's hard to mediate between them, and to hear the kids say, "We want to go home" when we're at my parent's house. I want to go home, too...And then my mom says, "We never see you." Guilt. 
Suggestions welcome...[/quote]

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