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[quote=Anonymous]Just wanted to vent about my BIL since he is making me crazy. He is 6 years older than my DH and moved back to DC after living in another city for a few years.  He really doesn't have much going for him in life at the moment (no job, girlfriend, not even any friends from what I can tell) so I feel bad and really want to be nice to him, but he always overstays his welcome and is just around way too much because he has nothing else going on. He would come over every day of the week if we let him and hang out for hours (he often falls asleep on our couch). He makes the excuse that he wants to see our kids to make up for when he wasn't around, except that when he comes over it always ends up with me hanging out with the kids, and him and DH off doing something else. DH works from home and the worst part is that half the time I get home from work after a long day to find BIL on our couch -- then I get to put the kids to bed, cook dinner, clean up while they have some drinks and watch TV. Seriously WTF.

The worst part is that I feel like we have become almost like a crutch for him to fall back on so he doesn't make any effort to hang out with his old friends, go on dates, look for a job, etc. He got a decent settlement from his last job so he is just living off of that for now.

I've tried talking to DH and he says he understands where I am coming from and has actually made an effort to tell his bro we are busy and can't hang out, so now he just shows up at our house and says he was in the neighborhood and wanted to say hi, even if we said we are busy. DH had a talk with him last weekend and said we need some space and time alone, and BIL said he gets it but is feeling lonely and really needs his bro right now... but would try to come over a little less.  Well that lasted for like 2 days and now he has dropped by for 3 days in a row.

Okay rant over... thanks for listening![/quote]

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