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[quote=Anonymous]... apparently ticked them off.  For YEARS my sister and mom have insisted on arriving at our house for long weekend visits late on a school night.  My son's bedtime is around 8:30 and they arrive between 9 and 10.  Of course, he loves them, looks forward to seeing them, and could not fall asleep knowing they're on their way even if I forced him to go to bed.  With the most recent planned visit, my sister mentioned she might take a half day off work and they would arrive around dinner time.  Perfect, I said, I would appreciate that, etc.  On subsequent phone chats, I reiterated that I would like it if they did that.

Two weeks prior to planned trip she sent an email stating they decided to come the night before the day she planned to work a half day.  When I discussed it with her the next day, she said coming the following day would ruin her and our mom's shopping day (because my son would be in school all day and this gives them two shopping days instead of one).  I pressed the issue - stated my preference for the dinner time arrival and after taking a couple of days to think about it, she called to tell me they were cancelling the trip.

So, if they can't have it their way, they're not coming at all.  After all the years (even before our son was born) of using our house as a main base for their shopping trips, I push back one time and this is what I get.

One thing that really gets me is they always act like they are coming to help us with DS (btw, he's 9 now, and we don't really need much "help").  Last time they were here, they watched DS on a no-school day until I got home from work then went shopping and out for dinner.  Fine, except they told DS they'd be home at a certain time, but were a good three hours late.  He felt bad and of course brought it up when they got home.  My mom's response was that he should have texted them to remind them.  WTH?  Who says that to a 9 year old?

I was really hurt by their decision.  Am I overreacting?  Any suggestions on how to handle in the future?[/quote]

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