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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is one person's perspective. There's a wealth of research on this topic for anyone actually considering such a decision. [/quote]

And the research overwhelmingly supports the bottom line of this person's perspective.  Miserable people are just that - miserable, and they're modeling that somehow the "bond of marriage" or the importance of one household for their kids is somehow more important than standing up to awful behavior, getting mental health services or leaving, stopping the cheating or deciding you will not tolerate cheating, or just plain demanding to be treated with respect and without hostility.  These are some of the common tensions miserable parents are dealing with (with one or both parents contributing to the underlying problems), and the research supports overwhelmingly that modeling respectful communication & humane treatment or, if that is not possible, modeling using your ability to control what you can and getting the hell out are much much healthier role models for children and much better for their wellbeing.

If you disagree, please link to research studies from a reliable source (i.e. not some shady organization well-known to be pushing an anti-divorce agenda).  There are shady pro-divorce studies too, but a huge number of studies from legitimate science sources that are also pro-separation when the relationship has become toxic (in terms of the impacts on kids).[/quote]

Sorry. I'm not going to argue with you about the value of decades of academic research vs. a column in the Huffington Post. [/quote]

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