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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I love to entertain.  [b]We regularly host[/b] anywhere from a couple or two to large 50+ people gatherings over the course of the year.  All casual, we are not formal people.  We've even had people ask us way in advance if we're still having one of our two annual events.  Yet, I find that [b]we are rarely invited elsewhere[/b].  Super Bowl tonight has me thinking as I watch my FB feed fill up with people talking about their plans, DCUM posts about last minute appetizers and desserts.

We have lots of friends and life is overall good, but it would be nice if occasionally we weren't the ones to have to clean the house, spend the money, and open our door to others!  Sometimes I think people assume that because we entertain so often that we must always have plans.  DH is an introvert and doesn't mind, but I'm a people person so it occasionally bums me out.

Just a vent.[/quote]

That's your problem in bold above. Unless you're the classic, seated dinner party type, where usually people know to reciprocate dinner invitations. If your invitations are informal and include overlapping social circles, then keeping score becomes silly and impractical.

Accept that you host more than the average.

Incidentally, how many times do your "rare" invitations occur? Perhaps for your hosts they represent the utmost they can do. It's only compared to your frenzied hosting that they seem sparse.
We invite people to dinner/party about once a month (not counting playdates), and receive similarly infrequent invitations.

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