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[quote=Anonymous]I hated the idea of being "on the shelf" in online dating, waiting for someone to judge my cover and give me a look. There was a low-level sense of constant rejection, just being out there waiting for someone to click.  Worse were the promising e-mail exchanges that went nowhere, or that were drawn out and resulting in an in-person meeting with no chemistry whatsoever.

I quit the membership-based sites where you have a profile and took a friend's recommendation to put an ad up on Craigslist in the m4w section.  CL has a seedy reputation, but the regular dating section is full of -- regular people!

What's best is you don't create a profile.  You just put an ad up and see what happens.  I would look about 5 days ahead and think of what I wanted to do the following weekend -- maybe, take a hike along the Potomac Overlook trail, or bike on the Mount Vernon trail, or check out a new exhibit at the American History museum.  Then, I'd put up an ad looking for a companion for the activity.  I'd specify that I'm eventually interested in an LTR, so looking for someone who is similarly looking, and provide some basic stats.  No pic.

Met LOTS of great people this way.  What was great about it is that it resulted in an immediate meet, not a lengthy correspondence with emotional investment.  At worst, it was an awkward couple of hours, but most meets were really fun, and at the very least I got some exercise or got out of the house.

I had a number of great dates, including a few repeats, a few funny duds, and then met my now-husband on the 15th date.  Highly recommended!!![/quote]

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