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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have two choices 1) have no interactions with your MIL - but understand that DH and your children must be allowed to continue a relationship or 2) as an adult understand that she will never change, expect nothing from her and smile.  It's your choice to make but make one and stick to it.[/quote]

OP here.  Thanks, this does help.  I've been doing #2 until now but I just feel like she's interfering in our marriage now and that's why it's bothering me. [/quote]

She might be interfering with your marriage but only because you are letting her.  You want your husband to agree with you, to be as angred by and upset with her behavior as you are but he's not going to be.  Sure, he'll get upset and say something but never to the level you'll want him too.  He has spent his life getting mad at his mother for one thing or another than blocking her out and moving on.  He's not about to start caring too much now that he has a family of his own.  Sure it's hurtful but you know what she's like so act accordingly.
 
I had a similar relationship with my IL's that was only made worse by DH'a siblings.  It wasn't until I finally realized the only thing I could do was accept them as they are and make every effort to make sure that all interaction with them was on my terms (when, where and for how long) and I always invite my family to be a buffer.  I have also found that giving DH and the kids time alone with IL's has been a godsend.  Ten years of marriage and I finally have the courage to do it and feel great about it.[/quote]

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