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I think first things first if grandpa has a son or daughter, then he or she needs to talk to him about his affairs to be sure he has a will, possibly a trust arrangement since he still owns a house and possibly other property, legal power of attorney and most importantly an advanced and detailed health care proxy.  If there is no one and it has skipped a generation to you, then you need to do likewise, BUT again if there are other grandchildren, be sure "all" know that you are taking the lead in grandpa's affairs or there may be squabbling and hell to pay later on.

Also, no one can reallyt tell with Medicare nowadays when Grandpa might just be released from any rehab or nursing situation since Medicare keeps reviewing "progress" and when no more progress is judged happening, then it can stop paying and he would need to private pay.  If grandpa has his "marbles" and will be insistent on returning home, then you or someone really needs to think clearly if this is realistic and if so, find a competent home health agency to work with him.  BUT, you are correct it would be best for grandpa to be close to someone family member or at least if there is an opening in an assisted living center or other senor life care setting and he could afford it with selling his house - if unable to stay there safely  - to consider doing so.

The hardest thing to understand for family "out of town" is that someone must assume responsibility for grandpa if he is released and unable to manage.  Even in an assisted living housing, the person of record is called every time one falls, one goes to the ER or must also arrange every time a doctor visit is needed.  Then imagine all the other tasks to be sure get done if grandpa is back in his own home alone -- unless in time he will be able to resume even a limited lifestyle with supports. So I guess the areas to consider are financial affairs, legal affairs and most directly right now medical care.  It is not easy in most cases even if living in the same town, and if his finances are limited, then even more involved to find ways to get services.[/quote]

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