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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The in-laws just visited. For 2 weeks. I really have a hard time being around them- they are loud, messy, and just objectionable in many ways. Nothing I find too morally terrible to the point where I won't expose my children to them, but bad enough I use these coping techniques

1) withdrawl (emotional or physical... this time, I spent a lot of time in my bedroom or "working," which meant I also missed out on holiday family time with my kids)
2) being quiet

What can I do next time instead? I want them to have time with my children and a relationship... but... the above really isn't my "style" and I have a hard time being so passive in my own house. On the other hand, these people have violated my boundaries so many times I don't know what other things I can do (without providing specifics, they are the sorts of violations of privacy and respect that come from meaning well, but just not having a good impact).

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So...they mean well but you just don't like it. They aren't trying to piss you off, just don't know your boundaries and the like? These are the people who made your husband who I have to assume you love. Love them and their flaws cause what ever you are seeing in them made your husband. Have a glass of wine and relax and get messy with them.[/quote]

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