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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry OP. I'd be really upset if my SILs refused my efforts to bond and didn't facilitate a good relationship with my nieces & nephews. You all don't have to be BFFs, but being on decent enough terms to get the cousins together, congratulate each other on life's milestones - things would have to be really awful for me to not offer at least that much to my SILs.

You don't mention what precipitated all of this. When did the relationship go sour? Do you feel like you could have done something to prevent this? Were you egregiously offensive in the past? I don't ask that to put you on trial, but just questions for you to think about on your own so you can understand the situation - you don't owe me an answer, obviously. [/quote]

I'm guessing that there was no earth shattering main event.  In fact, for all Op knows a therapist that SIL is seeing has suggested this as a way to establish boundaries.

All you can do is look at what *you* have actually done.  If you have done something major, try to make amends.  But if you are truly mystified just respect that not all people want the same sort of close relationship that you do - maybe you have been really pushy, too pushy for her comfort. Maybe she's a biotch. Who knows?   At any, you can be in the same room as a person and still be aware of a real distance or of being snubbed.  You can not force it.[/quote]

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