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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]New poster here.  also from dysfunctional background, but American.   It took me years to get over it.  And I won't say I really got over it.  I got from a place of making poor mistakes to a place of stability.  But I'm not perfect.  [b]However, I'm doing my best to make sure my kid doesn't follow in my family's footsteps. [/b] Then I will feel successful.

Again. Therapy.  However, I will say I had one therapist who was really helpful.  And a couple who were a poor fit.  So if you feel you've got a dud, keep looking.   A good therapist is extremely helpful.  Good luck.[/quote]

OP here, thanks, this is beautiful. I see what you are saying. One cannot erase the effects of one's past overnight or within a year or two. This is the main reason I beat myself, for making similar (not same) immature blind mistakes even when I became fully independent. I guess this is inevitable having come from an unstable family with no reference to what is normal and it does take years to learn sound judgement.

I have never thought of this in terms of kids. But once I do it makes sense, I need to think beyond a year or two of my life and its mistakes, and ensure that over my lifetime I leave a sound foundation for my kids.  Thanks for the new perspective.[/quote]

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