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[quote=Anonymous]It's a bit frustrating but wondering whether others would just ignore or it or try to address it.  Anyone dealt with someone like this?

MIL:  Emails DH and me to ask about Christmas travel plans.
Me:   Responds to email giving our plans (because DH never responds to emails - whole other story!)
MIL:  Unhappy with our plans but does not respond to email.  Complains about us to BIL (and maybe asks BIL to reach out or just bothers him until he does?)
BIL:  Emails DH to try to guilt him into staying longer.
Me:   Emails both BIL and MIL to explain why can't stay longer and invite them down to stay with us for New Years.

Why didn't she just respond to my email to ask if there was anyway we could stay longer?  Why go through BIL and try the guilt trip?

Another example from a holiday:

MIL:  Texts DH that phone going to die soon so call BIL if DH wants to talk to her
An hour goes by
BIL:  Texts DH that he has his phone if DH wants to talk to MIL  (no doubt because MIL told him to).
Me:   Tells DH to call his mother because she clearly wants to talk to him.
DH:   Calls his mother and she is happy.

If she wanted to speak to her son, why didn't she just call him?!

So I think I know the answer to this, but would you just ignore and keep playing her game?[/quote]

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