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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, 
I am sorry about your loss - I lost my father  last year and have a few major losses in the past 3 years. You say that your IL are checking in on you through DH. So yes, they are checking in on you. Everyone grieves differently and it is impossible to read someone's mind as to what they need emotionally during a time of loss. If you need a bit more, a conversation, an extra shoulder to cry on, someone to listen to you cry on the phone, then call. Can you call your MIL or SIL  just to talk? Try not to be too hard on them, it sounds like your well-being is of concern to them, which is why they are asking DH about you. You cannot fault them for knowing EXACTLY how you want to be comforted.[/quote]

Yes - this.

People are awkward with grief - it's hard to know the right thing to say or do, and it's hard to know what you'll want when the time comes.  Also, what you may want or need can shift a lot after a loss.  So ask for what you want, and trust that they care about you and just don't know exactly what you need.  Also, remember that you're more tender than you would normally be so you're more sensitive to stuff, a little more caught up in what's happening with you right now than might be normal, etc...   Don't make any big decisions about people or take any big actions.

Your grief will level in time, and they will come out of the woodwork in time also.

I'm sorry about your Dad.[/quote]

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