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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have no emotional connection to DH, but am not all that lonely.  My sibilings live about 30 minutes away, so I see them at least every other week.  I have friends from work and my neighborhood.  I am also an introvert.  I wish that the situation with DH was different, and am sad that the marriage is not working, but I'm not really emotionally lonely.[/quote]

This would have been my response about three years ago.  I would have said that I wasn't really that lonely.  Fast forward to now.  I am single after a 20+ year marriage.  My ex had been having a secret affair, and I found out about it.  We divorced; it sucked.  But I look back on it now and realize how emotionally vacant our marriage was.  I did have good friends and a wonderful family, so I didn't feel like my life was so bad when I was married.  My ex was not really abusive -- just completely checked out.  But I am so much happier today.  I do have lonely moments, but I really don't miss  my ex at all (once in a while I miss the dream of what I "thought" we had together -- and what we did have at the beginning of our relationship).

I am working with a therapist to get back to my old self.  My marriage chipped away at my self confidence and eroded my ability to really trust others.  But I am dating,working on figuring things out, and oodles happier than I was staying in my lonely marriage.  My ex seems happy with his new lady friend, and my DC is thriving as well.[/quote]

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