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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am in a similar situation to you.  My partner is a great partner, not a deadbeat, but he is an artist and that's not a job that easily provides benefits.  I regret that it isn't possible to get benefits for him thru my federal job unless we marry.

Lots of people may judge our decision, but I stand by it.  I married and was widowed in my twenties.  That was a scarring experience, and I don't want to remarry.  Ever.[/quote]

Now you have the same choice as heterosexual couples.  Get married to get health benefits or don't get married and face the consequences. [/quote]

Funny how the word partner makes you assume that I'm gay.  I'm not.  I'm a woman, who is with a man.

My first husband died of cancer.  It was brutal, and I made a promise to him, myself and god never to marry again.  It was a young, naive promise to make - but I did it and I stand by it today.

So now I'm 40 and have been in a new relationship for a decade.  We have two kids.   As you point out, we do have the option to marry, but I have chosen not to out of respect for my deceased husband.  So perhaps I deserve to "face the consequences" as you so kindly put it.  Or maybe the wonderful committed relationship that I'm in now is just as valuable and honorable as your marriage, and perhaps society should learn to recognize it...[/quote]

New poster. I'm so sorry for your loss. But I'm not sure how standing by the pledge you made in your 20s is honoring anyone -- certainly not your partner and your children.

If he's your permanent partner, marry him. If he's not, don't, but don't expect the world to treat him as if he's your permanent partner when you're not willing to acknowledge him as such.

I'm gay and I got married 2 weeks after it became legal, after 15 years together, because marriage isn't just a piece of paper. It's a commitment to each other and to society. Make the commitment or don't.[/quote]

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