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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry but your husband has to take at least one if not two days off to spend with her. That is a non-negotiable. Have her come on a Friday night so husband has the weekend to spend with her, plus another work day. The visit can be from Friday night to Wednesday morning. [/quote]

OP here.  He usually does try to take at least a day off when she's here but he's in a commission-based business so even if he's "off" he's still connected to work and if an issue comes up or a potential client wants to meet then he does because he could lose the sale if he doesn't.  The past few times she's come I've planned a few things like a dr appointment for myself or a dinner with friends, but she gets offended that I am choosing to do anything but spend time with her.

She's also of the mind that he's soooo important since he is in the business field and earns the majority of our income, so it's fine that he spends tons of time on the phone or email or running to the office. I'm "just" a teacher and on break so I should have nothing to do but host and have her be my shadow.  He kind of plays into it while she's here and it annoys the hell out of me. I've talked with him about it and he denies doing any more work than usual, and it may just be bad timing, but it seems to happen every time she's here.

And to answer the question about why it has to be 5 nights if she comes here--it doesn't necessarily have to be but she feels that if she's spending the money for a ticket then she wants to get quality time out of it. If I lie and say we have some non-negotiable event so that she'll leave by a certain date then we have to keep up the charade the whole time she's here because she'll ask a million questions about it.

She's a generally nice woman who means well but having her here stresses me out. I know she wants time with DS so I try to see it from her perspective but  I also am getting tired of spending every school break with her here or us going there. [/quote]

Since your kid is 3, he can go anytime to see MIL. Have your husband take DS alone while you stay home and teach. [/quote]

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