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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just dealing with some information we found out last night.

We had planned to take a trip away and leave our child in the care of DH's Aunt and Uncle who are very close to us. They are as involved as grandparents and live in our same city. We get a call last night from my cousin (who is the child of aunt and uncle). Saying that she wanted us to know before we left our child, that she was sexually abused by her father (Dh's uncle). The abuse took place from 2-10 years of age approximately. Aunt (mother of cousin) doesn't know. We believe cousin 100% because she has always been trustworthy and honest.

I'm just reeling. I'm so sad for cousin. and for DH who trusted these people. I know people always say that child abusers look like everyone else, but I still cant believe it. The uncle is the most charismatic guy in the world. Super successful personally and professionally - everyone likes him.  And I'm just sick. It's an avalanche of feelings.

Obviously I cant/wont leave DC with aunt & uncle. Think we will bring him with us on our trip, which is disappointing because DH and I really needed this for a number of reasons. And it also changes the future of our relationship (can never leave DC with them etc). Aunt loves our kid and will be heartbroken because she was looking forward to this time with him, but she will have no idea why we really pulled out of the arrangement. And it's not our place to disclose.

Anyone been through something similar? or have any advice? Any good therapists in NOVA for this? [/quote]

How old is your child and did you ever notice a change in demeanor or behavior?  The first thing is be glad if your child has not been molested, 2nd thing is discuss this with DH who might have other issues from this discovery.  Never have them in your home or go to their house.  Meet her only for some shopping or a light lunch twice a year.

You would feel sicker if your immediate family was molested.  Be glad you found out!  [/quote]

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