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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for everyone's thoughts.  I think the difficulty is that FIL/MIL are really NOT obnoxious - and sort of want to see the kids and *try* to help in not-always-helpful ways - but it's is just clear that they don't want to or are not equipped to deal with basically a baby and toddler.  So I kind of always feel like the b*tch who is complicating all the outings and being needlessly rigid.  That said I think pushing folks to commit to a basic timeline and actually *scheduling* their alone time w DH is probably the way to go.

I think what they'd really like is some sort of Downton Abbey type scenario where nanny (guess that's my role!) presents the children (in fresh white cotton) for an hour or so, and then everyone proceeds to cocktails.

(Which sounds sort of awesome--were I not nanny--but is about 180 degrees from the current chaos that is our life!)[/quote]

I grew up with a set of grandparents that I was not close to. They came to visit once a year for dinner. I'd come home, and there they'd be in our living room. They never once played a game with me or came to see my bedroom. We'd eat dinner, and they'd leave. We were welcome to come sleep over at their condo in Florida after we had graduated from high school. I loved them just fine. I never compared them to my other grandparents who came to all our plays and recitals, let us stay over every three-day weekend, played endless card games with us, and saw us weekly. OP, just plan for them to come and do adult activities. Hire a babysitter for the kids. [/quote]

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