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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love mine because she gave me two amazing, wonderful, loving grandchildren.  And she is a good mother to them.  She however isn't the woman (and hence the life) I had envisioned for my son.  I look past a lot because its none of my business but one thing that really gets me is how she puts so much financial pressure on my son.  They have more than enough money but to her they always need a little more.  I feel like she chases after some different vain goal every 5 years and than once its attained its on to the next.  [/quote]

The woman you describe - chasing after some vain goal and always wanting money - is my MIL.  When DH married me he told me that he could never marry someone like his mom, because she was always bemoaning how her other relatives or friends  had more than her. DH believes that it forced my FIL to always wanting to amass wealth.

However, I believe that both FIL and MIL are materialistic and avaricious in nature.  No one partner forces his will on another without any friction. ILs have very different values that DH does not subscribe to.

I think most of the time such couples are actually well suited to one another.  What you are objecting to is what you think what your son would like to have (a less materialistic wife), but she is actually exactly what he wants and needs. That they are good people is obvious in the fact that they are a happy family and mom is a good mother. Not black and white but tons of shades of gray - just like my ILs. [/quote]

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