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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]our first baby, her first grand kid. She doesn't want boundaries, and takes even moderate line-drawing as personal insults. I need boundaries, am a private person, and need to feel like I have at least some control over my life.  My family is totally different. There have been ridiculous dramatics that I won't go into, but she has been throwing fits over a number of what seem to me (and others) to be reasonable limits.

I just feel like she is inserting herself into my life and marriage unnecessarily at a pretty difficult time--new baby, new jobs, new house--and she is making things so much worse. My husband is guilt tripped beyond belief. I feel like I am walking on eggshells because he is so defensive of her.  
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I went through something similar where right after the baby was born, the MIL wanted to show up immediately and "help" which is not what I wanted, and not my idea of help. I wanted privacy to get over a traumatic birth experience and bond with my baby who I was separated from in the hospital. My husband sided with his mom, and it still irks me to this day.  When she throws fits, it means the boundaries you are setting are working. Let her throw fits. That is her problem if she can't handle it.  She needs to get a life, and your husband needs to realize he's now first and foremost your wife, and not his mommy's baby anymore.  It's always the worst with the first grandkid.  Eventually the novelty wears off and they will find someone else to intrude on.[/quote]

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