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[quote=Anonymous]I almost didn't marry DH because of issues with his parents. I wasn't exactly what they imagined their DIL to be (they were expecting the daughter they never had) and I wasn't interested in that role.  I was nice, polite and 'dutiful' but it grated that I didn't treat them as my own parents.  Then, I started a grad program while keeping my demanding, FT job.  I had very little free time and no time to do the 'family' things now-DH and I used to do.  I had talked with them about grad school, how hard it was, how little time I had, etc. but they played it to now-DH that I didn't like them any more.  Instead of saying 'WTF, she's working FT, in grad school and has no time - she told you that already', now-DH started pressuring me to do more with them, to call his mom to chat, to go out for dinner with them, etc.  He was worried about disappointing his parents.  There were also some other issues with his extended family that also caused problems and it got to the point I was planning on how to cancel our wedding venue and recoup as much of our deposit as I could.  This is after living together for 2.5 years and we were in our mid-30s.   We ended up getting married (18 years now) but it required a lot of counseling.  DH continued to have issues with boundaries and his parents that didn't end until his parents died. [/quote]

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