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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get out of the way completely and don't weigh in on school choices until the very end. Reserve your veto for one school, two at the most, at the moment applications are being made. Our DD cycled through a lot of college options. She considered some schools that we would really have hated for her to attend. But we didn't say anything because we didn't want it to become a power struggle. She would consider the school and then come to the realization on her own that it wasn't a good idea. This happened several times and it took patience for us to hold our tongues. By the time she was actually applying there was only one school on her list we weren't comfortable with and we said so. Because we had not been over involved and pushy, she actually considered our reasoning and readily agreed. She ended up at a school that would not have been our first choice at the beginning of the process but she knew herself and it has been perfect -- academically and socially. She is happier than she ever was in high school and is getting a fantastic education.

I know there are a lot of parents who can't help themselves and justify their over involvement by saying that they will have to pay for it.[b] But if you sit back and wait, your DC will most likely reach the right conclusions for them.[/b] If you push to hard they may pick a college for all the wrong reasons.

Just a thought.[/quote]

Some of us just can't sit back and wait. I don't want my DC to go down the path knowing we won't be able to afford 60k/year school. Then what? [/quote]

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