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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if this many people are saying and doing things, perhaps [b]DH agrees with them[/b].  The only person DH has ever needed to stand up to was my hyper critical and judgemental mom.  Other than her, no one has ever said anything about me that warrants a defense. [/quote]

I agree with PPs who have commented that your post seems to imply that you need a lot of defending, so you might want to look into the reasons for that.

However, to answer your question, in my experience it won't change, and is probably telling -- unfortunately I think you have to assume the bolded is true.

Many years ago my then-fiancé's mom asked me to leave the room for a family discussion, saying to everyone, "She's not family yet." I thought it was a bit nasty and unnecessary -- I was fine with giving them space, but a simple "Would you mind giving us a minute" would have been much kinder.

Later that evening when we were alone I mentioned this to my fiancé, saying my feelings were somewhat hurt and asking if he thought I'd done something to offend his mom. His response was, "She's right, you aren't family yet."

Needless to say he was soon after my ex-fiancé.

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