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[quote=Anonymous][quote=FruminousBandersnatch][quote=Anonymous]I need tips on talking to him about it.
He likes fat women. I am fat,  very fat.
I have been working out, eating better etc. I am not going to be thin anytime soon. Before anyone asks he is successful, good looking, and in very good shape. Last night he asked how much weight I had lost because I am noticeably smaller. I casually said 52 lbs. He told me I am losing weigh way too fast and he thinks a safe amount would be 1 lb a month. Since I have been losing weight he has stopped having sex with me. I would like to work on my relationship.  We have been together for a few years.
Thanks in advance[/quote]

52 lbs is a lot of weight and that's a HUGE accomplishment! Congratulations from someone who knows how hard that is.

Over how much time did you lose the 52 lbs? How much more do you want to lose?

A pound a month is definitely healthy, but although IANAD, I think even up to a pound every week or two is still considered healthy controlled weight loss.

With that amount of weight loss, though, you probably should be consulting a doctor (if you aren't already), especially if you did it more quickly than 2-3 lbs every 2 weeks.

If he's in good shape, he must appreciate how much better you feel, how much more energy you have, etc.

Congratulations, again. That is a tremendous achievement and good luck going forward and keeping it off.

[/quote] I lost 52 lbs in about 4 months. I plan on losing weight until I feel good health wise.
Looks wise, I'm not insecure. If I had to put a number on it I'd say about 100 more pounds.
My doctor just says good job. He isnt worried. I didnt have health issues or anything like that, but I am turning 30 soon and I want to be a mother one day.

He does seem to like that I have more energy when we go hiking,  and do outdoor things. He says us not having sex for 3 months is unrelated. But it sucks, and feels like Im being punished.[/quote]

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