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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She is 8, and always have been challenging, strong will and difficult.  She has multiple life threatening food allergies, so since young, I have been fixing lunch for her to go out.  I am sensing that now she is at an age where friends are more important than family.  She told me that I am embarrassing her by walking her to the bus stop or showing up at school unannounced.  She literally rolled her eyes at me when she saw me dropping off medical forms in her school.  She wants everything that her classmates have, including school lunch.  I cringed just thinking of her picking up food she is allergic too.  She is also a slow eater.  She hardly has time to finish the lunch I have prepared for her, but now she is asking for dessert and treats to be included in the lunchbag, just like her friends.  Most of all, I think she wants the freedom to eat what her classmates are having.  When she came home from school, all that she wanted to do is just read.  She ignores everything and everyone, but get extremely annoyed/jeolous when her young brother did something good that won my praise.  [b]I thought she is turning into someone I know less and less of and does not share my values.[/b]  I thought 8 is a very sweet age.  She is sweet, when she is in school or outside of the house.  I think I am failing this mother-daughter relationship.  [/quote]

You are WAY over reacting. Doesn't share your values? You must get a grip on her before she becomes a teen or you are going to have a very rough time. She is not you, she is a different person.

Its completely fine for her to say she doesn't like the lunches. You are being way too defensive. Is it possible to find a dessert that she isn't allergic to? Because if she has to avoid so many foods her classmates are eating, at least she should have some kind of treat.

Don't walk her to the bus stop. If there is a dangerous intersection, walk her that far and let her walk the rest of the way. Do not show up at school unannounced. If you have to drop off forms give them to her in a sealed envelope to drop off and then call to make sure it happened. And what is wrong with reading? Thats all I wanted to do after school -- its pretty great. And do you ever praise ehr or do you just bag?

Finally, it soudns like you have some issues with anxiety. This is understandable with a child with life threatening allergies, but you should still see someone about it.[/quote]

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