Anonymous wrote:Get a grip woman. It's fucking lunch.

Anonymous wrote:She is 8, and always have been challenging, strong will and difficult. She has multiple life threatening food allergies, so since young, I have been fixing lunch for her to go out. I am sensing that now she is at an age where friends are more important than family. She told me that I am embarrassing her by walking her to the bus stop or showing up at school unannounced. She literally rolled her eyes at me when she saw me dropping off medical forms in her school. She wants everything that her classmates have, including school lunch. I cringed just thinking of her picking up food she is allergic too. She is also a slow eater. She hardly has time to finish the lunch I have prepared for her, but now she is asking for dessert and treats to be included in the lunchbag, just like her friends. Most of all, I think she wants the freedom to eat what her classmates are having. When she came home from school, all that she wanted to do is just read. She ignores everything and everyone, but get extremely annoyed/jeolous when her young brother did something good that won my praise. I thought she is turning into someone I know less and less of and does not share my values. I thought 8 is a very sweet age. She is sweet, when she is in school or outside of the house. I think I am failing this mother-daughter relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:She is 8, and always have been challenging, strong will and difficult. She has multiple life threatening food allergies, so since young, I have been fixing lunch for her to go out. I am sensing that now she is at an age where friends are more important than family. She told me that I am embarrassing her by walking her to the bus stop or showing up at school unannounced. She literally rolled her eyes at me when she saw me dropping off medical forms in her school. She wants everything that her classmates have, including school lunch. I cringed just thinking of her picking up food she is allergic too. She is also a slow eater. She hardly has time to finish the lunch I have prepared for her, but now she is asking for dessert and treats to be included in the lunchbag, just like her friends. Most of all, I think she wants the freedom to eat what her classmates are having. When she came home from school, all that she wanted to do is just read. She ignores everything and everyone, but get extremely annoyed/jeolous when her young brother did something good that won my praise. I thought she is turning into someone I know less and less of and does not share my values. I thought 8 is a very sweet age. She is sweet, when she is in school or outside of the house. I think I am failing this mother-daughter relationship.

1. Don't walk her to the bus stop.
2. Show up at school unannounced (to whom?) less, or not at all.
3. Ask her to solve the lunch problem with you, including the occasional dessert or treats that she can eat.
4. Let her read when she comes home from school. Do not expect her to provide a full report of her school day as soon as she gets home, or ever.
5. Praise her when she does something good.
6. Maintain some perspective. You are an adult. She is an eight-year-old. Also, you are separate people.

Anonymous wrote:She is 8, and always have been challenging, strong will and difficult. She has multiple life threatening food allergies, so since young, I have been fixing lunch for her to go out. I am sensing that now she is at an age where friends are more important than family. She told me that I am embarrassing her by walking her to the bus stop or showing up at school unannounced. She literally rolled her eyes at me when she saw me dropping off medical forms in her school. She wants everything that her classmates have, including school lunch. I cringed just thinking of her picking up food she is allergic too. She is also a slow eater. She hardly has time to finish the lunch I have prepared for her, but now she is asking for dessert and treats to be included in the lunchbag, just like her friends. Most of all, I think she wants the freedom to eat what her classmates are having. When she came home from school, all that she wanted to do is just read. She ignores everything and everyone, but get extremely annoyed/jeolous when her young brother did something good that won my praise. I thought she is turning into someone I know less and less of and does not share my values. I thought 8 is a very sweet age. She is sweet, when she is in school or outside of the house. I think I am failing this mother-daughter relationship.

Anonymous wrote:It's just the beginning of adolescence. Things will be better in 10ish years. Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:She is 8, and always have been challenging, strong will and difficult. She has multiple life threatening food allergies, so since young, I have been fixing lunch for her to go out. I am sensing that now she is at an age where friends are more important than family. She told me that I am embarrassing her by walking her to the bus stop or showing up at school unannounced. She literally rolled her eyes at me when she saw me dropping off medical forms in her school. She wants everything that her classmates have, including school lunch. I cringed just thinking of her picking up food she is allergic too. She is also a slow eater. She hardly has time to finish the lunch I have prepared for her, but now she is asking for dessert and treats to be included in the lunchbag, just like her friends. Most of all, I think she wants the freedom to eat what her classmates are having. When she came home from school, all that she wanted to do is just read. She ignores everything and everyone, but get extremely annoyed/jeolous when her young brother did something good that won my praise. I thought she is turning into someone I know less and less of and does not share my values. I thought 8 is a very sweet age. She is sweet, when she is in school or outside of the house. I think I am failing this mother-daughter relationship.