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[quote=Anonymous]I have been going to therapy for a host of issues my mom has caused. Growing up she was semi emotionally abusive, dramatic, guilt tripping, over reaction, etc.  For years I tried to talk to her about how certain things she did or say really hurt me.  I was always met with guilt trips (I'm a horrible mom, why can't we have a good relationship, I stayed up for nights cryin because you said I upset you, etc).  It took awhile for me to realize I had fucked up issues.

Today in therapy I came to the realization that she has not once said I'm sorry and meant it. It has always been "I'm sorry I'm a horrible mother". "I'm sorry I screwed you up". "I'm sorry you got stuck with me". And more along those lines.  Recently we had a huge blowout.  She later admitted that she came to visit and was gunning for me. She actually said she was looking for ways to criticize me.  When I was honest with her (lying is a big reason I'm in therapy because I grew up afraid of telling the truth) she tore apart.  She later admitted her issue with me is she wants me to be perfect, and when I'm not, she lashes out at me.  I begged her to get therapy.

Due to a mentally ill brother, I will never be able to cut her out of my life.  I have slowed down contact and been firm when she gets nasty about that.  I'm hoping she will get therapy. It makes me sad that it will always be my fault in her eyes and she will always attempt to guilt trip me, even though my therapist believes she has a personality disorder

I guess this is a vent more than anything else. Just hoping someone else can relate I guess. [/quote]

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