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[quote=Anonymous]Did DH speak to her about what she did?  Did either of you stand up for yourselves at the time?

Honestly, I'd work on your own confidence level so with any future crazy behavior, you can speak up for yourself.  That's the main thing you can do now.

How has she been since?  Any other crazy boundary crossing?

The other thing is to think about is setting boundaries.  For instance, I don't think I'd leave her alone in your home for any extended period of time.  I would also consider that she'll need some guidance as to what is/isn't appropriate when you have a child, and that you and DH will need to talk about it and he will need to communicate those boundaries to her.

Finally, of course your relationship with her is not the same.  She showed herself to be someone different than who you thought she was.  And, you had a grievance with her that never got addressed.  It's really too late to address that now, but consider the larger lesson that she's not the close friend you might have thought she was.  That's painful, but sometimes it's best to adjust expectations of an IL relationship rather than hold the relationship to a standard it will never meet.

Try to be polite and civil and leave it at that.  Let DH take the lead on the relationship with his mom.  You don't have to have much of a relationship with her at all![/quote]

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