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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Send her a cake from some fancy cupcake place.  Send her a flock of pink flamingos with a huge sign in the yard wishing her a happy 60th.   Send her a card "signed" by her grandchildren with their handprints.  Give her one gift:  A picture of her with her grandchildren.  Have your father take her out to her favorite restaurant.  That way she can't complain no one did anything and you don't have to put up with anything on the day.

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I have this mother also. She is now in her mid-seventies. She pulled the birthday crap with me when i was in kindergarten!!! I remember how she shamed me for not giving her a present - i still remember how awful and confused i felt as i dashed to my room to find an art project (this little plaster flower pot that i had half painted ... It was not very attractive) and quickly wrapped it up in some tissues. She opened it, made sort of a displeased face and left it on the kitchen counter. I was FIVE freaking years old. As a teen i worked so could save up to buy more expensive gifts that she often specifically asked for. As an adult i have planned numerous elaborate parties for her, often to her specifications. Also very generous gifts that she usually requests.  Unfortunately she has only become more demanding. Not only about her birthday but in general. 
I am not wealthy (at all), work 10 hours a day or longer, and am a single parent to four extremely busy children. I am so worn out most of the time taking care of my own household i simply have nothing left to give the last few years. She is angry with me most of time for not doing enough for her, giving her enough attention, etc. it completely sucks and just leaves me feeling worthless. My advice to you is to not try too hard to please your mom on her birthday - the flamingos, the handprint card, etc. i always have done this sort of thing and just has never satisfied her. It's bullshit, OP. this is not what mothers are supposed to do. [/quote]

A PP here. This makes me so sad! I feel so sory for that little 5-year-old. :-(  Your mother clearly is mentally ill if she did that to you when you were in kindergarten. Forget trying to please her; she is a misery. Sounds like you have enough on your plate and four people who really need you. I'm sorry your mom sucks. Some of us are just unlucky in the parent lottery. [/quote]

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