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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let her go- you can't fix everyone (though I don't think I read that directly but it was implied by your dedication).  You also should not be treated this was- so- whatever which sides weigh the most- just walk away.[/quote]

OP here- you are correct that I had really hoped to connect her to resources to fix herself. I knew there was nothing I could really do but show compassion and encourage positive things in her. And Im very good at finding information. I now can see that in some sense she does not want help. And in some sense she does not want to get better because she has convinced herself she cant, or she cant get better because somehow she does not want to.

THIS IS WHY I DIDNT PURSUE BECOMING A THERAPIST despite many people encouraging me to do so. I was intuitively concerned I would be drained by people who did not actually want to get better.

Then again, maybe the professional distance helps with that. I dont know. In any case, I didnt become a therapist, and I was not trying to be one to her. But I did try to get her to see she had some choices. She is completely convinced she has NO choices. Oh well.[/quote]

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