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[quote=Anonymous][quote=MarleySkye840]PP, that is extremely passive aggressive. Be an adult and tell her how you feel.

She is clearly a difficult person. Maybe just say to her that other people have issues in life and her life isn't the worst case scenario. A little tough love, but love nonetheless. If she really needs a reality check, give it to her, but don't become a bitch in the process. If she really has only one friend, be there for her. [/quote]

OP here. Well, she has started to direct her general ire at me, which makes communicating with her genuinely impossible. The other day she hung up on me because I told her I was on the way out the door to work. I had wanted to call her from my cell on the way there, eventhough she was only calling to complain, this time about me.

She gets [b]very defensive[/b] when I mention the fact that other people have problems, which I always do only as a comparison- ie "I know someone who went through X" or "I went through X".

Tough love is not really an option because she dug her heels in good and proper that noone can understand how bad she has it unless they have the IDENTICAL experience. Which is of course just about impossible.

She resists any attempts to draw parallels between her and anyone else. She is a single mom, had her kid on her own. She tried meeting with a choice moms group, but they were all too wealthy for her. She finds their wealthiness offensive. She met with a single parents group, but they were all divorcee's, so then they dont understand her because she has never been married.

She's walled up good and proper.

And now she is starting to reject my friendship. However, she probably will eventually make contact, and I need to know waht to say.

I have been nothing but super super kind and gentle with her because I can see she has genuine problems. And she is all alone. But now she is beginning to push back- which is what it is. But she WILL make contact. Eventually.

I really did make an attempt to help her because she was so alone. I never expected I would get anything out of the relationship per se- I had no expectations. Except I didnt expect her to start lashing out at me.[/quote]

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