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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is he OCD, or anxious, or gay? His constant cleaning with podcasts seems like a way to hide from you - it doesn't seem like it's really about the cleaning. Does he have any leisure activities he enjoys that you could join him in? I really really think you guys should do couples coumseling. Good luck![/quote]

OP here - OCD: a little, anxious: yes, and gay: I don't think so.  But yes, I think the podcasts are a way to shut me out, partially.  (I do acknowledge they are entertaining, and he's been a radio guy for years.  He was married about 5 years before I met him, for 15 years, and he similarly disappeared into listening to particular radio personalities back then.  Now it's podcasts.  So, he does enjoy them for their own sake, but clearly he's choosing them over having any sort of interaction with me.  This is not what life was like when we were dating or even living together.  It's all since the baby.)

We both love biking and it's something we used to do together.  Now he prefers to do it on his own.  He is faster than me and now prefers on-road biking, where we used to trail ride a lot.  So I go out biking with the baby and give him time to himself.  Very occasionally he will ride with us - he did for about 20 minutes this weekend.

I'd love to go to couples counseling, which we have tried before with pretty meh results...now he says we don't have time.  He feels stressed to the max and it would be just one more thing to try to arrange, especially because it would have to be during hours when the baby is awake, so we'd either lose time with him or have to take time off work.  Personally, I feel like it's worth it  -- losing 2 hours a week with the baby will be less detrimental to him in the long run than his parents splitting up.  But I can't convince him.[/quote]

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