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[quote=Anonymous]I apologize in advance for the wall of text - I'm just a bit desperate for some outside perspective on my current relationship.

My boyfriend and I are both in our mid/late twenties. We were together for two years before decided to go our separate ways. The reason behind our breakup was not dramatic - there was no betrayal, no abuse, etc. We went completely no contact for about 6 months. About two months ago he approached me stating that he wanted to rekindle our relationship and have a real future together. I agreed (I had never stopped loving him, I just knew that no contact is the best thing to do when a relationship ends). We've been very happy these past few months and we've been able to strengthen our communication and really talk through a lot of the issues we were facing last time we were together.

That is, until this past week. We both work full-time jobs that offer decent salaries and benefits. We are young so we have relatively low monthly bills (no student loan debt, small car payment, etc.). Also, we have a good amount of savings - nothing extravagant, but we definitely aren't struggling. My boyfriend surprised me last week by saying he had an interview for a weekend job. Well, fast forward a few days & he aced the interview and was offered the job. He's now working 16 hours/weekend (8 Saturday and 8 Sunday) in addition to his normal 40 hour work week. I'm happy that he's so ambitious and has such a strong work ethic, but I have to say I'm a little hurt that this decision was made seemingly out of the blue at a time where he is not struggling financially. When we got back together I had made it clear that part of the reason it didn't end well last time is because I didn't feel like he made our relationship enough of a priority. He's a very "out of sight out of mind" kind of person. If he's not actively texting me or sitting right in front of me, he's pretty clueless as to how I'm feeling or what's going on in my life. I told him that I felt that we did need to spend a bit more time together in order to strengthen our relationship.

Would you be mad if your serious, long-term SO did this out of the blue? And how would you go about it? I obviously don't want to end the relationship. He really is the love of my life and I can definitely see us living a long, happy life together. I just don't know if I'm right to feel upset/hurt by this, or if I'm being needy and overly-sensitive. [/quote]

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