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[quote=Anonymous]Two weeks ago I got a frantic call from my sister -- her dog needed emergency surgery. I talked with the vet and researched it. The dog would die without surgery, but it was $1500. No one would loan my sister the money and the vet would not take a payment plan. My sister promised that she would pay me back for the surgery as soon as she got a check, which she got the next day. The surgery went well and the dog is recovering nicely, but no repayment.

After she got the check, but before I could ask her to pay me back, she started a big fight with me. It happened like this:  My DD was injured in a car accident. I called my sister -- I was upset--  and she thought the accident was very funny. I could not believe that she was actually laughing.  At the time I was too shocked to really say anything. It is obviously not funny, but it does serve the purpose of deflecting from her owing me money for the vet bill. Also being so inappropriate/ unbelievable/ unexpected that it is  a kind of "shock bomb" technique that stopped me cold. There were other remarks -- really an attack. Afterwards I see why ... and why other members of he family have drawn a line with her. Then I look back over the past year and realize that I have been sending her money for this and that every few months, each time saying this will be the last time. She has been out of work for over a year, although she has been offered several jobs.

Now I am getting texts "what did I do?" "why are you annoyed" "I just don't understand" I know that she has not "forgotten" that conversation. And I understand that she is very mad at me for asking for the money back. I feel completely manipulated by this. I understand that she does not intended to repay me. But what to do now? Please no need to be snarky.[/quote]

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