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[quote=Anonymous]It sounds like poor communication, OP. It's important NOT to cut off anyone without making sure you've communicated clearly. You have to put your daughter's needs before your own feelings. Yes, your SIL was completely out of line to blame you for your ex's issues. There is no way for you to be responsible for his actions, no  matter what a PP says about being co-dependent (please!). Your job is to defend your child from your ex's behavior, and if your in-laws will not support you in that effort, then you need to consider your options very carefully before losing your head and cutting them off. In my experience, cutting someone off never works. There's always a lot of residual anger that eats away at the person who cut off the other one. Leave the door open, a crack at least. But make certain you are communicating your feelings completely, so your SIL understands what she did that made you feel you want nothing more to do with her. If she doesn't get it, then she doesn't and there's nothing you can do except walk away and let her know you're ready to talk when she understands how much she's hurt you. Good luck, OP. Get some distance and see what you can salvage. [/quote]

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