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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a very good friend with one of DH's best friends.  Friend and I email and text often about shows or books or movies or funny things we read online.  Sometimes we include DH, sometimes we don't -  he's not much of a reader, so he doesn't get some of our comments.  Not long ago, Friend joined me and some other women for dinner and drinks when we were all out of town at the same location.[b]  None of us are available, so I don't think that was a motive. [/b]
I guess we didn't seek each other out, but we are certainly really good friends. [/quote]

Trust me - it might not be a motive for you, but it is for him. OP, 100% certainty that your thread will break along gender lines. Women can have non-sexual relationships with men, but men see relationships with women through a sexual lens, even if they don't intend on sleeping with them. The sexual chemistry is still there.[/quote]

Then the logical extension of what you've just said is that the religions that insist on women covering themselves so they won't be seen by men (and, thus, make them sexually excited) are correct. You're saying that men are such slaves to their evolutionary urges that they are incapable of seeing a woman without thinking of her in a sexual way.

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+1 and pp made me think about every male coworker who has ever made a friendly comment to me was really just trying to hook up. [/quote]

Well, there is a distinction between seeing the relationship through a sexual lens and being able to resist urges and actively trying to hook up. So, just because the guy's interactions with the women has a sexual filter to it, doesn't mean he's in constant danger of blowing his load in your general direction or that you need to cover up. But, at some level, he probably does want to have sex with you and that's a motivator in how he interacts with you -- even if there is a close to zero chance he'd ever do it even if you were throwing yourself at him.

With my guy friends, I don't care what they look like. But, even as friends, I find myself more motivated to be friendly with attractive women than ugly women. [/quote]

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