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[quote=Anonymous]I guess this is a rehash of the old "can men and women ever be just friends" debate. But, I was reading the comments in some threads here talking about how men should value women for something other than sex and reading a blog post about a woman who was mad at a man who didn't find her sexually attractive despite her many laudable nonsexual characteristics.

So, I value my wife and other women for things other than their sexual attractiveness. But, if I'm honest, I have to admit that I wouldn't seek out female companionship much, if at all, if sex were completely off the table. When I was single, I hung out with groups that included women, but part of the draw was the potential for hooking up. Now that I'm married, I value my wife for nonsexual aspects of our relationship, but I never would have bothered with marriage if sex were off the table. I don't seek out social relationships with other women now that I'm married. Because, frankly, given professional and family demands, my social time is limited and I prefer the conversational topics, activities, and humor that my male friends enjoy and women mostly don't seem to. (Typical stuff - beer, sports, crass juvenile humor). And often the topics, activities, and humor I see from the women I encounter in my wife's circle are often deeply uninteresting to me.

I'm not saying men are better than women or vice versa. Just that, given what I personally find entertaining and interesting, if it weren't for sex, I'm not sure I ever would have sought out or maintained female companionship.

Guess I'm just trying to figure out if this makes me a misogynistic monster or if the experience and preferences of others lines up in a similar manner. (Or, perhaps, if women typically enjoy nonsexual guy friends while the reverse isn't typically true.) [/quote]

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