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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My SIL is currently a SAHM to two young kids. She doesn't have a visa to legally work her. In her own country she was a medical professional, however her qualifications don't transfer so she would have to go back to school to re-qualify. [b]They moved here because they felt it was a better place to raise the kids but she feels she gave her up quality of life. [/b]I think she thought life here would be fantastic and that somehow she would be able to work. She loves her kids but she isn't a great mom. So being a SAHM isn't ideal. She is bitter and depressed that she can't work here, that her qualifications are useless, that life isn't as great as she thought it would be, and she feels very guilty that she isn't great at parenting. They are also fairly tight for cash so going back to school or paying childcare isn't really an option.

I am not really sure how to help her. I feel for her kids too. And my brother as he gets the brunt of her anger. Part of me feels that these are the choices they made and that she needs to make the best of it but she is just so miserable. [/quote]

This sounds like they moved here AFTER having kids. So your brother is American and the wife and kids are from somewhere else? She THOUGHT life would be better here. Is it? If it's NOT, then they should move back. [b]Your brother needs to be supportive of his wife. If he thinks being a SAH parent is so easy, he could move back to the other country and be a SAHD[/b].[/quote]

No idea why you are being nasty. I never said he wasn't supportive or that he thought being a SAHP was easy.[/quote]

Not being nasty. I'm sure they don't want to move back to SIL's home country because the husband might be in the same position as SIL is now: not being able to find a job. So he could be a SAHD. I'm guessing it's fine for SIL to be SAH, but not for BIL.

Why ELSE would they not move back? Can you give some insight instead of calling a poster "nasty"?

He isn't being supportive if she is miserable and he's doing NOTHING to try and fix the issue(s). According to your post, you don't say he has done X, Y, Z. 
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