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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.

Their first child was born in the country they previously lived in. My brother was a SAHD for the first 18 months while my SIL worked full time. During those 18 months they were doing all the paperwork to move here. I asked them a few times before they moved what they would do about the job situation and they said that my SIL was going to stay at home for a while and my brother work. Then once their kids were in school she would go back to work. At the time she was taking courses and studying to write her exams here so she could eventually still work. Then they moved here, had another baby and she stopped studying and now says she has forgotten too much to ever be able to write the exams.

She isn't a great mom and the SAHM thing doesn't work at all for her. She doesn't understand child development at all, and her expectations for her kids are pretty unreasonable so they are always locked in power struggles, temper tantrums and yelling matches. She is a very hot headed emotional person.

My brother has said he would move back but she has a pretty sweet life here compared to what she had and she doesn't want to go back either. Also there is a lot of crime where they lived and she  doesn't think it is safe to go back home. Basically she doesn't want her life here and she doesn't want her life there.

Family helps as much as we can, mostly for the sake of the kids. My brother goes in early and is home by 4:00 so he takes over then.

She is just so unhappy and miserable but also doesn't really want to do anything about it. No option is a good option and she hates that all her education and skills and ability were wasted. [/quote]

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