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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You knew what you signed up for when you adopt. Did you think you would have a "perfect" child? You knew you wouldn't know much about the child's history and anything, delays and special needs could be possible. [/quote]

We'll it is harsh but there is some truth to this. When you adopt a special need child you are not going into the same parenting experience as parents who birth their children and parents who haven neuro typical kids. Did you have prenadoption training and is there anything that led you to this path that you can fall back on?  Are you involved in any adoption groups that can give you comfort and or advice?  Can you build on and get satisfaction from the 10% that is good?  Can you focus on the progress of the delays and get excited about your role in remediating this?  What is it that drew you to this in the first place?  Are things going as expected and you are just worn out because it's hard or is there something unexpected?  Is bonding an issue?  Maybe if you figure out the real issue you will be able to find more satisfaction. And as a PP mentioned, parenting is a lot of drudgery. If you can't find some measure of satisfaction in the laundry and cooking and cleaning then your days will be mostly unsatisfying. [/quote]

Not OP but this has nothing to do with adoption as she could have had a special needs child by birth.  Out of all our services and preschool my child is the only adopted one.  Training and preparation cannot change the fact that your child has special needs.  We were completely lied to about drugs, alcohol and lifestyle.  We suspected but nothing like what the reality was.  Many people lie in adoption so it isn't like one sets out often to adopt a special needs child.  It just happens just like it happens in birth.

And, my child is the perfect child regardless of how he joined our family.  :)  I agree you are a sad person to say that.[/quote]

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