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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've heard that older people start to lose their filters. My mom is a good example of this.

I've started telling my own mom who lives nearby, in the kindest and friendliest voice I can muster, that "that comment isn't very helpful" or "this is a difficult problem and it would be helpful if we're all as pleasant as we can be about it" or even, "we'll get this done a lot faster if we do it this way instead."

In other words, let her know you're all in it together, you know she wants to help, you appreciate her help (fake that part if you have to), and here's how she can make her best contribution. Use a tone of authority, to send the message that this is your family so you know what works best, and you're going to explain it to her.

I've been doing this for about two weeks now, and I'm *amazed* how well she's been taking it. She even apologized after I called her out for whining--sorry, I pointed out that her attitude made it discouraging for others.[/quote]

OP here. Thanks, this is great advice. I'm going to try this tomorrow![/quote]

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