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[quote=Anonymous]grew up in a crazy environment where there was a lot of manipulation and lack of boundaries /respect all over the map. bad bad divorce, BPD mother who was abused as a child,  narcissist father and very insecure stepmother (who turns out is not nearly as bad as some of the stepmothers I read about on here!)

as I have grown, I have developed some basic skills in setting boundaries to protect myself from others who might seek to take advantage. proud of myself, have come a long way, but still have a lot of work to do. therapy has helped.

I am still struggling however, to create a more reasonable set of boundaries for myself as others experience me in certain contexts. for example, when things get crazy, as they will in life here and there, whether it is a particularly tough time at work (as in, getting laid off, or once in a 3 yr tough spell, not every month troubles) , a death, dealing with a child's injury, I get melodramatic and can be overly emotional. in other settings, when I am seriously, seriously annoyed, I will overshare with others, leaving them feeling like my therapists. Or worse, rant at someone.

When things get rocky, I lose my sense of an anchor, I bleed out over edges easily, and don't know how to reel myself in, in these settings. generally speaking, however, I am more even keeled, and so when this happens, it really throws others for a loop. I used to be more like this overall, but as I mentioned earlier, therapy has helped me let go and move on.

this isn't cool and I need to stop. how do I do it? I know this is a question for my therapist but I am hoping to get some recommendations on books or other resources to do some advance groundwork on my own and get a diversity of opinions.

this may be too open ended of a question, but I thought I would try.

thanks in advance for any suggestions. [/quote]

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