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[quote=Anonymous]OP, what's disturbing is that your husband has kept this from you. Wow, talk about family secrets. Your husband and his family obviously need to deal with your FIL's problem but they also need to look at their own co-dependent behavior, like the secret-keeping.  Also sounds like your MIL is heavy into co-dependency -- controlling behavior is a big symptom of it.

But here's the thing - you need to educate yourself because addictive behavior can be hereditary and your son is at risk for becoming an addict.  I speak from experience - my parents were alcoholics and my brother has struggled with it off and on.  I raised my kid explaining to her that she was at risk for alcoholism because of her heritage and that if she ever needed it she could go to AA.  Amazingly, when she got into trouble she went to AA, found a good sponsor and is sober today.  What helped, she said, is knowing that in our family if you have a drinking problem you go to AA.

Anyway, I say all this not to freak you out about your kid's future but to let you know that this is something you should be talking to your kid about.  Your husband hid your FIL's alcoholism from you.  Don't hide it from your kid.

Good luck![/quote]

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