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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm an RN who works in rehab/long term care.  If I had a dollar for every witchy old woman who is a perfect beast to their husbands and children, I own my own vacation home on OBX.
I see these women guilt the crap out of their kids about coming around to kiss their asses when it's clear the relationship is nothing but toxic.  Some daughters come daily and leave in tears after another awful visit with their emotionally detached mothers who seem to think that squeezing a child out 50-60 years ago means that they need to devote every waking moment to them, regardless of the crappy childhood they provided.  It is so sad.  Those mothers will continue to guilt their children from beyond the grave...[/quote]

I totally agree.  OP, you have been 'conditioned' to love your mother and respond to her laying a guilt trip on you.  Why would you tolerate in your mother what you wouldn't tolerate in a stranger?  FWIW, I know how hard this can be.  I had an incredibly horrific childhood and lost two of my siblings to suicide.  I learned much earlier than many others that if I wanted any hope of a happy life, I needed to separate myself from my birth family.  Stop letting your mother have influence over you. (Therapy helps)[/quote]

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