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[quote=Anonymous]Here's the story: my grandmother died two years ago.  In the years before her death she’d allude to leaving her grandchildren—myself and my brother—inheritances.  In fact, the Christmas before she died, she told me that I would be receiving something one day and she “wishes she could see my expression when I received it.” I always had a very good relationship with her. Based on these things, I had always been under the impression that we were named in her will and that any money wouldn’t be placed in a trust the way it would be for a child as we’re over 30 at this point and living responsible lives. Any money I would get would be spent on something needed-- a house, great-grandchild's education, retirement, etc.

At this point, it’s been a while since my grandmother died, and I’ve heard nothing about her will, which I know she had. My mother and I have not always had a great relationship— she’s very religious and I’m not and she’s made comments that basically amount to holding money over my head in light of the fact that I don’t “share her values.”  My parents are very well off so I know they don’t need my grandmother’s money.  I don’t know how to tactfully bring this up and find out what’s really going on here.  I wouldn’t put it past my mother to play games and hold onto money and decide on her own as executor that I don’t deserve it. She’s done that with jewelry I was given by older relatives over the years (a great aunt gave me a necklace when I graduated from college and my mother intercepted it, pretty much took it for herself and said I can have it when she deems me ready for it as if my great aunt couldn’t decide it on her own). If she wants to give any inheritance to my kids,  but I can do that as well as my grandmother had a relationship with me, not my kids.  I’m assuming you can look up a will at the county courthouse? Any ideas on how to proceed or should I leave it alone?  I know getting a copy of the will would create really bad blood. 
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